I once had a serious conversation with my son about how he should be very careful who he shares his dreams with. You need to be careful as people can destroy your dream by being negative towards it, talking down about it, telling you you could never accomplish it etc... You should really only share your dreams with people who you can trust to be positive and supportive. Sharing your ideas with just anyone opens up the door to them being overly jealous or critical, which you may not be strong enough to forget the words you've heard. These negative thoughts could remain in your heart and prevent you from moving forward. Our dreams are way too precious to not give complete protection to.
Additionally, once we have a plan, and have an ideal, we must be very careful not to let the negativity and insults of others interfere in those plans. The worst thing you could do, is stop going down the path you were headed because "my partner didn't agree with it", or "my friend thought it was a stupid idea", or worst still "my child didn't like me going in that direction". If the people in our lives truly care for us, they will encourage us to be ourselves, to enjoy our lives, to live out our dreams, and to be proud of our accomplishments.
Little added side note: Our children are not adults and should not be given the entitlement to tell us what we should or should not do based on their perception of things. We as adults can listen to their feelings, express thanks for the feedback, however, we should quickly let them know that the ultimate responsibility and decision is the adult's and once the decision is made it is their job to listen, understand and follow.
Marc Chernoff writes about naysayers "Stop giving credit to those who discredit your dreams. These people are punishing your potential by slowly extinguishing your inner flame with their watered down vision of what you are capable of achieving.
If you give in and let their negativity convince you of who you are, their madness will wither you away. You will morph into who they say you are, rather than living honestly as yourself. In this way, these people will steal your life from you. You will lose track of where their opinion ends and your reality begins. Their fiction will become your life’s story.
What you’re capable of is not a function of what others think is possible for you. So look beyond their presumptions and mental limitations, and connect with your own best vision of what YOU are capable of and how YOUR life can be. Life, after all, is an open-ended journey, and 99% what you achieve comes directly from what you work to achieve on a daily basis."
Remember that our true friends are encouraging and supportive. Keep them close.
Favourite quotes:
“The battle you are going through is not fueled by the words or actions of others; it is fueled by the mind that gives it importance.”
― Shannon L. Alder
“Don’t fight with narrow minded people; be determined to compel them to change their mindsets about who you stand to be, not by arguments, but by focusing on what you do every day. If they change it, fine; if they don’t, fine. The good news is that you are pursuing excellence!”
― Israelmore Ayivor, The Great Hand Book of Quotes
“Expect while reaching for the stars, people to whirl by with their dark clouds and storm upon you.”
― Anthony Liccione
“I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do.”- Edward Everett Hale
My all time favourite quotation:
One evening an Old Cherokee Indian told his grandson about a "battle" that goes on inside people...
He said...
"My son, the battle is between 2 "wolves" inside us all.
One is Evil. It is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather... "Which wolf wins?"
The Old Cherokee simply replied...
"The one you feed."
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