Day 53 of 100 - Fuck Yes!

Normally I attempt to behave on facebook and not use language that would offend anyone, but this article is so interesting, simple and well put, frankly, that I had to share it with you - thank you to the gorgeous and brilliant woman who shared this with me!! I hope I can put it to good work. ;)

http://markmanson.net/fuck-yes

Mark Manson is an author who writes about the same question as I had posed in Day 18 - Lucky, but in such a way that simplifies the entire question.  I had noted the quote "Don't be afraid to lose someone who doesn't feel lucky to have you".  I went on to describe how one would determine they were lucky to have someone.  Mark's way though, is much simplier.  If you are with someone who's attitude towards you is Fuck Yes! it is a pretty clear indication that they are INTO you.  If you are with someone and there is doubt, if you can't say Fuck Yes! to them, then what are you doing???

"The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” states that when you want to get involved with someone new, in whatever capacity, they must inspire you to say “Fuck Yes” in order for you to proceed with them.


The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” also states that when you want to get involved with someone new, in whatever capacity, THEY must respond with a “Fuck Yes” in order for you to proceed with them."

I love this.
SO SIMPLE.

Mark writes the following "tangible benefits" from this attitude:

1. You save yourself the grief of holding onto people who "aren’t that into you".

"End all of the headaches. End the wishing and hoping. End the disappoint and anger that inevitably follows. Start practicing self-respect. Become the rejector, not the rejected."

2. You save yourself the wasted time of life in the mediocre world, that inevitable leads to broken relationships.

"No longer pursue people you are so-so on for ego purposes. We’ve all been there. We were so-so about somebody, but we went along with it because nothing better was around. And we all have a few we’d like to take back. No more."

3. You'll know exactly where you stand.

"Consent issues are instantly resolved. If someone is playing games with you, playing hard to get, or pressuring you into doing something you’re unsure about, your answer is now easy. Or as I often like to say in regards to dating, “If you have to ask, then that’s your answer.”"

"Always know where you stand with the other person. Since you’re now freeing up so much time and energy from people you’re not that into, and people who are not that into you, you now find yourself perpetually in interactions where people’s intentions are clear and enthusiastic. Sweet!"

So... what do you say????